Tips for dating an asian guy

26 Mar

Given our immigrant roots, most Asian girls endure a latent insecurity about everything from our boobs to our patriotism (both things that are just slightly there). But if you're going to lock it down and marry your Oriental princess, you must know one final thing: in Chinese wedding traditions, the groom pays for the wedding.So, as her white, Jewish (80% of the time), totally-secure-and-normal boyfriend, you better be prepared for when your girlfriend mistakes "soup or salad" for "super salad." And since Asians have eyes like gravy boats, her crying jags are bound to extend late into the night. STEP FOUR: Locking it Down If you've made it this far, then you know all the dirty secrets of dating an Asian girl. You know we pretend to love drinking, even though we turn into full-blown red-faced injuns when we do. (According to my mom, the tradition stems from the groom's family giving the bride's family a cow in exchange for her.) So, if you're going to marry an Asian, get ready to empty your pockets. Of course, because of this, my parents want me to marry a Chinese guy and my brother to marry a white girl. Of course, dating an Asian girl is very different from dating your typical Nancy or Betty.So, in order to snag yourself a Mulan, I present to you a White Man's Guide to Dating Asian Girls.Yes, we all implicitly know what's going on here -- why else did America go to war in two Asian countries last century? Us girls all like to pretend that we're your first Far East foray.STEP THREE: The Relationship If you get to the point now where you're dating an Asian girl, you better understand where she's coming from.On the positive, Davies says that Asian men like to take their time to get to know you first, and they ALWAYS pay for the date, so you can leave your wallet at home. And because she loves me so much, she says that anyone from BB&W who buys her book through her site will get an autographed copy.If you know next to nothing about dating other cultures, this is a very, very enlightening read.

Why LLAG is supporting this: This is POC EVERYTHING!!!In the book Freakonomics, one study showed that single Asians (male) had to make 7,000 more annually to receive the same response rate as White men on online dating sites. Asian males are not portrayed as masculine, whereas Asian females are stereotyped as submissive, exotic.” What gives?!The good news for Asian males is that as online dating is becoming less and less taboo, there are a lot more asian dating sites ready to help make meeting potential matches easier.And I’m now reading the “Yellow Fever” chapter with much interest, because I never knew how complicated the whole Asian dating thing can be. But what gave me pause in Davies’ chapter on dating Asians was her view that they were VERY open to interracial relationships.First, according to Davies, Asians are ALL ABOUT what you do for a living. But…it depends on the Which brings me to the topic of “face.” Jo Gan talks a lot about this on her blog, Life Behind the Wall (BTW, Jo is a black woman married to a Chinese man). She’s quick to mention that discount the sexual needs of their women, but it would be interesting to find out how true this generalization is.